Going through divorce is difficult enough on its own, but including children makes the process eminently more complicated. It is highly likely that if you have children and are going through a divorce, that you and your ex-spouse will then be in a co-parenting situation.

Co-parenting has many benefits for the children, but it can also be difficult to manage. One strategy that some families are using in response to co-parenting challenges is “birdnesting.” According to Psychology Today, “birdnesting” (or just “nesting”) involves the kids living in a single residence while the parents move in and out of that residence based on the co-parenting plan.

How practical is this?

Depending on your situation, nesting may be extremely practical. For example, in the beginning stages of your divorce, it is highly likely that you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse will not want to continue cohabitating. However, it is not a good idea to start moving your children around prior to having a solid living situation post-divorce.

In this instance, nesting can be very useful. It will ensure that you and your ex-spouse get the space you need to move on with your lives without unnecessarily disrupting your children.

Where does the other parent live?

If the nesting arrangement is temporary, it is not unusual for the “off-duty” parent to reside with other friends or family when the other parent is “on-duty” in the family house with the kids. Hotels can also be useful during this time.

For more permanent nesting arrangements, sometimes the ex-spouses decide to sign a lease together on a separate apartment. This is where the “off-duty” parent lives. Most nesting arrangements are temporary in nature, but sometimes they can last for years if it works for the family.