The cliche goes that all good things must come to an end. Strictly speaking, this is not always true. Unfortunately, it is often true for marriage. The longer couples were married for, the more difficult it can be to disentangle themselves emotionally, legally and financially. Moving on socially and on an individual level can feel very much like pushing a boulder uphill too.
Many people try to put off the healing process until after the divorce. Psychology Today recommends starting before the legal divorce process even begins. Some avenues to consider include therapy, journaling, divorce support groups and meditation. Some people also find it useful just to talk to family and friends about the process and how they feel.
Another important obstacle to overcome is forgiveness. Sometimes divorces are amicable; this is rarely the case. Even when one party is happy with the decision to part ways, the other may resent them for breaking up what they felt was a happy home. Forgiveness is important in these instances. It makes it easier to move on, heal and find happiness either alone or with someone else.
When it comes to rebuilding, USA Today recommends a financial plan. Too many people wait until they are buried in debt and way behind on bills to get this done, so try not to put it off. This is especially important for people who did not manage the finances in the marriage and now have to learn to do so for themselves. It is also important when that person is not the breadwinner as they must make do with much less than before.
Finally, it is time to revise documents. Life insurance policies, auto insurance policies and wills are just some of the many that might now need changing. This is part of the process of separating finances and legal attachments. It also ensures that their financial and legal preferences reflect recent priority shifts.