The decision to end a marriage is not one that anyone takes lightly. For many people, divorce is the last resort that is arrived at after much deliberation. Getting to this decision on your own can be challenging, especially if you’re not sure whether it’s the right action to take. In this case, consider the following information before moving forward with your divorce.
In many cases, your own feelings play a large role in whether or not you should seek out a divorce. Think about how you actually feel about your partner. Does investing additional time and energy into your relationship appeal to you? Or do you feel you’ve expended all the possible energy you could towards the problem? Do you feel hope for the future? Or does it seem like nothing will help you reach a resolution to your current problems? Answering these questions honestly can help you arrive at the best decision for your well-being.
Also, consider your spouse. Problems with substance abuse, neglect, or infidelity often lead to divorce, despite your best interests for reconciling. The level of intimacy between you can also be an indication of the health of your marriage. If you lack intimacy on all fronts, such as emotional and physical, chances are your relationship is in serious trouble.
If you do reach the conclusion that divorce is the best option for you, there are steps you can take to prepare yourself. Think about how you’ll handle financial issues when on your own. If you’re currently unemployed you might even consider looking for a job so you’re financially independent. You should also take steps to reduce the amount of tension and stress you feel on a regular basis. For instance, if being around your spouse makes you feel stressed out, spend time away from home to decompress.