If you have recently been divorced in Florida and you are the non-custodial parent, it may be difficult to adjust to not seeing your kids every day. Before the divorce, you interacted with them in even the smallest ways as you passed in the hallway or said goodnight. If you want to maintain a solid, healthy relationship with your children as the non-custodial parent, HelpGuide.org has a few suggestions.

Communication is key as you find your new normal after divorce. Open, honest communication about plans, schedules and feelings can benefit your relationship with your ex and with your kids. Even if the divorce is not amicable, finding ways to positively interact with your ex can provide consistency and stability for your children, which makes them feel safe to build a strong foundation for your relationship.

Consistency is also important with your kids. If you say you are going to be somewhere, those promises should be kept. Life gets in the way and it can be hard to manage schedules, but kids need to feel safe and secure and if you are constantly forgetting things or unable to make them, your kids may not trust you or feel emotionally safe with you.

You can also do everything possible to spend time with your kids. If your ex has plans, offer to be the babysitter or childcare. Volunteer with your children’s teams, in their school classes or on their field trips. Because you do not see them as often as you would like, you now need to watch for special opportunities to be with them.

Successful co-parenting happens when both parents are truly invested in their kids rather than getting their own way. The kids should be insulated as much as possible from the details of the divorce while still getting honest information that validates their feelings.

This is for educational purposes and should not be interpreted as legal advice.