For many Florida spouses, deciding how to break the news of divorce to friends and family is one of the most stressful parts of the process. Most people don’t know where to begin this delicate conversation, and are uncertain how to broach the subject in a way that will not be upsetting to others or leave people feeling as though they must choose sides in a divorce or child custody case. Here are some tips on how to discuss divorce and child custody with others in a way that is healthy and balanced.
It’s important to break the news to close friends and family first. These are the people who are more likely to offer support and acceptance. That makes them an excellent training ground for practicing a divorce and child custody announcement. Be sure to tell friends and family that their support is appreciated and that they shouldn’t feel compelled to demonize the other party.
Whenever possible, it’s helpful to frame divorce and child custody discussions from a place of positivity. Even if a spouse is certain that the other party will make the matter as acrimonious and contentious as possible, it’s possible to talk about the subject in a neutral way. Express a deep hope that the matter is resolved smoothly and without upsetting shared children. The way that an individual discusses his or her own divorce largely shapes the responses that others will have to the news.
Preparing to announce a divorce is never an easy matter, especially for Florida spouses who are expecting a child custody battle. Talking about the matter in a positive and hopeful way can help garner the support of friends and family at a time when it will most definitely be needed. Don’t feel embarrassed about practicing your statement in writing or even in the mirror before you make it public.
Source: Chicago Tribune, “How to tell people you’re getting a divorce”, Alison Bowen, Jan. 24, 2018